Boy oh Boy! I have pondered this thought for many years. I have been engaged twice and I often think was I marrying for security or real love? Maybe neither since I am still a bonafide single. But most women, I assure you marry for security.

Women want to know that they will be taken care of. I guess if you really love someone that in itself will equal a happier life in the long run and that too will provide a certain level of security as well. Right? Not according to the high percentage of women who find security the more attractive asset. Marrying for love is almost a thing of the past.

There are also other women who are married and secure and still getting their needs met by an old lover, who is broke. Or that thug love who we just can’t let go. Or maybe that boy who always moves you in the right places, but doesn’t fit that family profile, so you have to keep him a secret. You have to know what is really important, because it looks like the “love” to fulfill our desires is worth the risk of the security. Logical right? Of course not.

Do we always really know what we want or what we think we want? Are we all looking for “the one” or moments that we can create without doing it so aimlessly with multiple people? I am not really sure, but I am glad that I am waiting to really find out what really is the most important thing for me in making that committment that can only assure to change the dynamics of my life.

Taking your time to find yourself will ensure you find a better “one”. It would be tragic after years of compromise and sacrifice, only to wake up and find yourself unfulfilled in what seemed like a promising fit. It’s not a good look for either party. Marry for whatever reason you like, but I guarantee if you both are not agreeable on what that reason is; it will be , on to the next “One” for you and them.

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