Have you ever been dickmatized?

I know you’re thinking oh hell no! No, Not me! Well, if you have ever been in a relationship where the sex is immaculate and the man is not, then you have been dickmatized. He probably does not have a job, no education, no car, no real dreams or anything as such, but he can slang that ‘D”. So you put up with things that you normally would not because once he is inside you, you forget about all that other stuff that really should matter.

Jill Scott said it best, “When you get caught up in the whole sexuality of your relationship but it’s not going anywhere… Just somebody giving you the goods but not necessarily giving you the rest-or not expecting the rest from them.”

Being dickmatized is nothing to be embarrassed about. A lot of women have fallen into that trap that makes us believe that one day it will get better. We believe he will get a job or leave from off my couch or be able to take me out to dinner or sincerely care about me. Yes, that is that dick in action. It clouds our mental vision and creates an illusion of what we hope to be. It keeps us posted in that position until the next time he takes us to climax heaven. The tragedy comes in when we invest in the dick for the long-term and even sometimes marry the dick. Ladies, that is something you never do. You find yourself letting the dick drive your car and you end up buying it clothes, food or even providing shelter for the dick. Let that dick go! If you are not ready to let the dick go and is finding it hard to say no, just think of your value and what you really want in a relationship. If you then find that all you need at this moment is some good dick, then have at it, break that mofo off! But do not invest more into it, then it is investing in you.

There is no one that enjoys sex as much as I do, and having a healthy loving relationship where you are treated like a Queen and where love is reciprocated is far more greater than just what a dick can provide. Dick’s come and go (literally). That is what it does. When you get tired of it, it will be more than happy to move on to the next. That is what it does, that’s how it is, enjoy it for what it is and you too can move on. Trust me it does get better but only if you require it to. It may have been the best dick you ever had. But think, dick is only as good as you are. Don’t be desperate for the dick. You can not go around making dick demands when you have put up with it for years. The dick does not change. Beside’s, as a woman you hold the key. Your va-jayjay is way more powerful than his dick. (Those of you who do not know that, I will explain later).

I am writing this because I too, had to let go of some good ass dick. I can not even explain how sensational it was. For about 3 months it had complete power over me and I allowed it to happen. I found myself saying I love him, when I really just loved the dick. It was crazy! How could this be happening, I know better than this! Then one day I just snapped out of it. I intentionally created a nice ambience, bought champagne and candles for my last romp with this dick, then I said farewell. Once it was gone, I regained my power. I accepted it for what it was and considered it to be a test. I could have accepted the dick and that half ass man I was getting, but I needed more and those sexual sessions was not enough. I needed to also be mentally stimulated and unfortunately you can’t do that through my vagina.

Now I am more prepared and ready to welcome a more fulfilling and realistic relationship. I have always been the monogamous type, that good dick was just a sidebar. I have no regrets about my decision to have a relationship with some good dick, every girl should have at least one. Just know when it’s time to move on and let that good dick go and replace it with good love.

LL Walton

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